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Armenia- Europe best kept Secret

It’s mid afternoon in a mountain village close to the Azerbaijan border and the air is thick with the smoke of a dozen chargrill barbecues. Men are turning giant skewers of chicken and lamb on the coals while their obedient sons fan the flames, dressed in traditional Armenian costume.

High above the gorge the sun is pouring down from a cloudless sky and beyond the river bridge there’s dancing: troupes of young men and women, linking arms, kicking their legs and singing in unison as wild music blares out from speakers beneath the chestnut trees.

On the trestle tables there are baskets overflowing with freshly picked fruit and bottles stacked up high, filled with a dark red liquid. It’s semi-sweet wine from the areni grape because today, October 1, is the annual Areni wine festival.

You know you’re in wine country the moment you arrive at Yerevan airport. You can’t really miss it as there’s a 20ft high inflatable wine bottle parked outside the terminal.

A Christian country sandwiched between predominantly Muslim Turkey, Iran and Azerbaijan, Armenia likes its alcohol. They also produce what they say is the best brandy in the world and driving into town the advertisements are everywhere for Ararat brandy.

My driver deposits me at the quaint Villa Delenda, one of the few surviving relics of 19th-century town houses in the capital, Yerevan. Outside its ivy-covered walls stone bollards line the cobbled pavement, stencilled with a Kalashnikov assault rifle and the words “Defend Yerevan”.

Developers are eagerly eyeing up Yerevan, but for now its antiquated charm endures CREDIT: AP/FOTOLIA

Was this, I wondered, a reference to the deadly on-off conflict with Azerbaijan over the disputed Nagorno-Karabakh region? No, says Maryam, one of the girls who run the villa as a guesthouse, with part of the proceeds going to charity. It’s a campaign to stop the developers from bulldozing the last of Yerevan’s historic buildings.

Inside the villa its all woven carpets, wooden floorboards and exquisite locally-made ceramics which they sell from a shop in the basement. A kindly old woman bustles around me, speaking only Russian. It’s late and the staff have gone home but she fetches me a bowl of potato soup, floating with mushrooms and herbs, and stands, arms folded, to watch appreciatively as I wolf it down with hunks of bread.

She tells me her name is Amelia and I wish I had enough Russian to ask her about her life. I put her age at about 75, meaning she would have lived two thirds of her life in the USSR, when Armenia was part of the Soviet Union, before it disintegrated in 1991 and Armenia became an independent country.

Despite the developers, Yerevan is a delightful capital. Its wide, leafy boulevards are lined with cafés and wine bars where Armenians like to sit chatting late into the night.

People here still talk about the recent visit of the world’s most famous living Armenian, Kim Kardashian, when her husband, the singer Kanye West, jumped into a fountain after a concert and invited the crowd to join him.

Armenians from the large overseas diaspora who visit for the first time are said to be pleasantly surprised by how modern, safe and civilised Yerevan is, and then rudely disappointed to find the suburbs and roadsides littered with the hangover detritus of the failed Soviet economy.

Driving out of the capital on my first morning, two things are immediately apparent. The abandoned, derelict factory buildings and the grim, Russian dormitory blocks surrounded by empty carcasses of old vehicles, rusting oil tanks and decrepit machinery overgrown with weeds. Armenia needs a clean-up.

Of course it’s not all crumbling churches, snow-capped peaks and rolling countryside CREDIT: ALAMY

But then you look up to the horizon and there, towering over everything, is the magnificent, awe-inspiring snow-capped peak of Mount Ararat, 5,165 metres high and just across the border in Turkey. “It used to be ours,” lament Armenians.

The mountain, together with its smaller sister, Little Ararat, form a stunning backdrop for the monastery of Khor Virap, meaning “Deep Dungeon”. This hilltop fortress is allegedly where St. Gregory the Illuminator was incarcerated for 12 years by a pagan king who was then cursed by sprouting the head of a boar. On a more practical note, my advice would be to get there early to beat the coach tours.

We drive on, to two more jewels in Armenia’s cultural crown: the Hellenic-style temple of Garni and the monastery at Geghard. Both are nearly 1,500m up in the foothills of the Geghama Range where the air is cool and fresh. Buzzards soar on the wind then swoop down into the ravines to snatch prey.

Garni is a sort of miniature Parthenon, built in the 1st century AD, reduced to rubble by an earthquake in 1679, then rebuilt in the Seventies. It’s an extraordinary building in a dramatic setting but Geghard Monastery is, to my mind, even more impressive.

Unesco-listed Geghard Monastery is perhaps Armenia’s most beautiful CREDIT: ALAMY

Up a steep, cobbled road, through an archway, past pine trees swaying beneath yellow crags, this World Heritage-listed monastery is named after the lance said to have speared Christ’s flesh at the crucifixion.

My driver and I enter the main church, protected by high walls, and suddenly we are plunged into semi-darkness and 800 years of history. Devout Armenians are crossing themselves as they enter and lighting thin candles in a tray of sand.

Outside in the breeze I glance up at the rock face above and can see it is pitted with ancient caves: monastic cells once inhabited by monks. Somehow I can well imagine this place surviving intact for a further eight centuries.

Back at the wine festival in Areni, on my second and final day, the sun is slowly sinking towards the top of the gorge and people are winding their way home in groups, clutching bags and bottles.

“It used to be ours,” lament Armenians, when talking about the sacred Mount Ararat CREDIT: ALAMY

I stop to talk to an elderly couple selling necklaces of dried cherries. The old man places one around my neck then resolutely refuses payment. He and his wife ask me to take their photograph and they sit there side by side, this happy old couple, perched on a wall, leaning into each other with this stupendous view behind them, all sunlit vineyards and ochre mountain ravines. And then I feel somebody fiddling with my pocket.

My urban antenna immediately makes me think I’m being pickpocketed, but then I realise it’s just a kind old fruit vendor, donating me some apples from his stall. We both laugh.

The apples are crisp and succulent and I eat them one after another on the way back to the car. It is a scene of utter peace and tranquillity and I make a vow: next year I’m bringing my family.

The essentialsGetting there

There are no direct flights to Armenia from the UK. Aeroflot, Ukrainian International Airlines, Air France and KLM all offer indirect services.

Staying there

Villa Delenda in Yerevan (00374 1056 1156; info@villadelenda.com) offers double rooms from £40 a night, including breakfast. Staff can arrange a private car, complete with their own excellent driver, Artus.

Currency

£1 = 592 AMD (Armenian Dram)

A three-course meal with wine cost as little as £10 in a mid-range Yerevan restaurant.

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Cultural styles of communication

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Cultural styles of communication

Imagine the following scenario…

  • On the first day of class in your graduate program, the professor shares that she would like to be addressed by her first name, without the need to add any title. Would you find that request appropriate or shocking?

Now imagine this other scenario…

  • You are attentively listening to your male professor’s lecture. Suddenly, one of your female classmates raises her hand and begins to challenge the professor’s argument. Then, another student raises his hand and voices his point of view. All of a sudden, the lecture turns into a whole debate on the topic. Do you consider debating with a professor an essential part of your learning process, or would that be something completely inappropriate? 

Depending on our background, our understanding of what may be considered “appropriate” and what may not vary greatly. Every culture has its own unspoken or explicit rules regarding how we should treat each group of people: the elderly, the youth, professors, doctors, people from the same or opposite sex, our parents, our children, and so on.

Sometimes, one of the biggest culture shocks that we experience when we live abroad is dealing with different cultural communication styles. For one culture, being assertive can mean expressing your ideas clearly, directly, and looking into people’s eyes while you talk. For another culture, that way of communication can be interpreted as a sign of disrespect, crossing boundaries, or being rude. 

For some years, I lived in Barcelona. The language was not an issue for me, as I am a native Spanish speaker. Yet, at the beginning of my life there, I thought that most people I encountered in the street or in my university were either upset or did not have good manners. All those indirect phrases that I learned in my country to talk to anyone who was not part of my immediate circle, were not very much used by them. Rather, they would talk to me directly and going straight to the point, without adding any “Do you mind…/Could you please…/Would you…?” Were they being rude? Well, if you have asked me back then I would have said “Oh YES!” But now, I can tell you that they were not.

What set us apart? Within the field of cultural studies, there is a framework called “High- and Low-Context Cultures.” Our style of cultural communication falls within the line of this spectrum.

  • High-Context Cultures favour an indirect and non-verbal style of communication (does it sound similar to my background?). These cultures emphasise the relational aspect of interactions, before “getting down to business” (talking about facts and numbers). Also, high-context cultures set more strict boundaries in terms of how to address people with rank, authority, or hierarchy.
  • Low-Context Cultures favour direct and precise communication (sound familiar with the people I first encountered in Barcelona?). Another characteristic is the importance of communicating facts, regardless of how much rapport we previously built with the other person. For example, in the U.S. factual communication tend to be prevalent in academic and work environments.

Something to keep in mind is that this framework of High- and Low-Context Culture do not have to be seen as two different boxes, but more like the end-line of a spectrum. In other words, depending on the country where you are from, you may have inherited or learned more characteristics of one side of the spectrum or the other, but no country or no culture falls 100% in each of these labels.

Final thought: Remember that every person is different and unique, regardless of their cultural background or nationality. You may be studying in a country with a predominant high- or low-context culture and find people from that country who will not fall into those broad categories.

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3Tips for your planning for study abroad

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3Tips for your planning for study abroad

Studying abroad is a very exciting experience! There is nothing like advancing your career, traveling to another country, and learning about other cultures all at once. However, that excitement can quickly turn into anxiety-provoking situations like going through getting a visa, saying goodbye to your loved ones, or even figuring out what to pack in your suitcase.
I have been an international student not once, but three times in Europe and the United States. Here are the 3 most important things I learned during my pre-departure journey.

Apply early for your visa
Believe me, you do not want to leave this for the very last minute! Depending on your passport nationality or the length of your educational program, most countries will ask you to apply for a student visa. The task may be long and burdensome, which are the ones we usually procrastinate on. Please, do not procrastinate on your visa application! If you do not know which documents you will need to submit for your visa, search the website of the country’s Consulate, or reach out to the Office for International Students at the University you will be attending. The consulate and the institution abroad will guide you in the right direction!

Pack Smartly
Let’s be honest, most airlines only allow 1 or 2 suitcases if you are traveling in tourist class. Depending on your budget, paying for extra baggage may not be an option. Thus, the question that may pop in your mind is “How am I supposed to pack everything that I need in just a couple of suitcases? My program last 2 YEARS!” Please, don’t panic! Moving abroad can cause a lot of anxiety, especially when the date of departure is approaching, and you have to get everything ready. Since I have made transatlantic moves in the last few years, packing is one of those skills that I am mastering. In my last international move from the US to Spain, I managed to pack all my belongings (including winter clothes) in 2 suitcases and one backpack. My advice: “Pack Smartly and Prioritize”. Think about what you TRULY are going to NEED and pack those things first. If you are unsure about what you are going to need ask yourself these questions: How is the weather in the place you are moving to? How long each season lasts? Are you going to need more winter or summer clothes? Do you anticipate wearing informal or business-casual clothing in your program (you can check the gallery photos of your department’s website for reference? How much storage space do you anticipate having in your host country (are you renting a room or an apartment)?

Ask people who have moved abroad about their experiences
Ask, ask, and ask again. If you know people who have moved abroad, reach out to them and listen to what they have to say. If you know anyone in your host country, contact that person, and ask them about what to expect once you arrive there. What is the cost of living in that country? How can you rent a place? Can you move around on public transportation in that city? Are you legally allowed to work while you study? (every country has different working restrictions for international students, ask your institution or the country’s consulate about this matter to be well-informed).
And here it is the final tip!…

(I know I titled this article by saying “The 3 Most Important Things…”. Usually, our brains feel overwhelmed when they have to process lots of information. Hence, the last tip will be more like a bonus).
Bonus Tip: If you will study abroad in a foreign language, practice as much as possible before you take that flight of departure!

Language barriers are REAL. Regardless of our level of fluency in a foreign language, sometimes we can experience a loss of confidence when we found ourselves in a classroom surrounded by native-speaker students and professors. In those moments, all that anxiety that we felt as a beginner learner can reappear and compromise our concentration and communication skills. What is the best way to manage this lack of confidence? Start to live and breathe in that foreign language NOW! Watch movies, read books or blogs, follow social accounts, leave comments in those accounts, talk to yourself, and do the activities you love in that language. The more you practice the more confident you will feel! (that’s true for any learning process).

Finally, I wish you ALL THE BEST in your study abroad! Once you are in that airplane, enjoy and appreciate every bit of your new experience!
Milena Tesi
(Bilingual Content Writer and Mentor for People Living Abroad. IG Account: @immigrantsplace)

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I am missing my home, my family, my everything

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I am missing my home, my family, my everything

When I moved to study abroad, I was feeling enthusiastic about living in another country, speaking in another language, being independent for the first time, and even experiencing the change of four seasons (I come from a tropical country that only has a dry and rainy season, so watching the leaves to change color or living in below zero degrees was completely new to me).

I was feeling very excited about my future! And yet, from time to time a form of nostalgia would sink in and I would start to miss my noisy family, having coffee with my close friends, or the Sunday family gatherings at my grandmother’s house. Then the day of my birthday came, and I was alone. I received phone calls and WhatsApp messages from my family and friends, but they were not PHYSICALLY there. Birthdays, family weddings, holidays, and special occasions all turn out into long-distance events lived through my phone screen.

Most of the time, we hear about the bright and shining side of living or studying abroad, but we do not get to hear about the emotional cost that comes with it. That form of nostalgia or grief that I am talking about is called HOMESICKNESS. Let me tell you something quick about it: Homesickness is REAL, it can be VERY PAINFUL, and if you have been living abroad for a while, probably you have experienced IT whether you were conscious about it or not.

For me, homesickness felt like sadness or nostalgia. However, those are only two types of symptoms for something that is way more complex. Homesickness is a type of grief. Research has shown that grief is not only an emotional process but also a cognitive and a physical one. That means that your homesickness can affect your body, your mind, and your emotions.

Some of the symptoms that you may experience, include:

  • Sadness, nostalgia, loneliness.
  • Lack of concentration due to recurring thoughts of missing home country.
  • Crying regularly every time one remembers one home country.
  • Irritability, frequent complaining, or hostility towards the host country.
  • Loss of appetite or overeating as a coping mechanism.
  • Headaches or stomachaches for no medical reasons.
  • Headaches or stomachaches for no medical reasons.
  • Having sleep disturbances (insomnia or sleeping too much).
  • Anxiety, Depression.

Homesickness is normal. Anyone who lives abroad can experience it at different points of their journey. After all, as human beings, we get attached to people, places, and things, and when they are no longer there, we grieve for those losses. But you are not alone!

If you are studying abroad and are feeling homesick, some people may be able to help you. Many colleges or universities in Europe and North America offer to their students free or low-cost mental health counseling, support groups, and other wellness resources. Make sure to check your University Website to find more information or ask your school counselor where you can access these resources! Another place you can look for is in your university’s Office for International Students. As I said before, many
international students experience homesickness, and your international student counselor may be able to assist you in finding the resources that you need to navigate that experience.

Other advice? Keep in touch as often as possible with your family, friends, or any other supporting person around you. Being physically apart does not have to mean being emotionally disconnected. Most importantly, be patient with yourself and with your process of adjustment. You are doing it great! Just take one day at a time!

Milena Tesi
(Bilingual Content Writer and Mentor for People Living Abroad. IG Account: @immigrantsplace)

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